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This could also be titled: The Advantages of Being Fat

I wrote it in response to Laura’s article over at Starling Fitness about why some people are Fat Bashers.

I am not cool. I finally decided it was ok, and actually, an advantage because I always have nice friends! I mean, I honestly have such nice friends! I just don’t attract people who only want to be friends with “cool” people, thus, I have decided my nerdiness is an advantage that weeds crappy people out of my life.

Same goes for my physical imperfections. I weed out the assholes who are going to take their anger and vitriol out on people for being imperfect. And its a myth that you can lose weight and then have these people be your kind-hearted friends. I want to lose some weight right now to be healthier, but I consider it a DISadvantage that some jerks will then want to associate with me.

When I was at the peak of my physical beauty, I was far enough along the “perfect” curve for these assholes to want to associate with me, but not quite perfect enough for them not to criticize me. Of course, there were many people who didn’t criticize me, but those criticizers can always find something. I could lose 10 pounds, grow my hair out longer, wear more fashionable clothes.

And honestly, I pretty much looked like a goddess, but I have never gotten so much criticism as when I was deemed worthy enough to be associated with by people who want other people to be perfect. It never ends with these people.

Have you ever noticed how these beautiful famous women are on magazines with their cellulite circled? They are not overweight. But boy, are they being judged and ridiculed. And then if they lose just a few pounds more than people think is perfect, they are on magazines with their bony shoulders circled. I figure they have about a pound and a half lee-way where they can exist without being criticized.

I guess what I’m saying is, these people who hate fat people don’t really hate fat people in particular. They are just taking out their anger and vitriol on people who they think it is still socially acceptable to put down. It it was an earlier era, they would be bashing gay people or black people.

On a societal lever, the fat acceptance movement is the only way to stop their bashing, because no individual will ever be perfect enough for them.

On an individual level, these people are not worth trying to please. I used to try and get mean people to like me. In my early 20’s I saw a cartoon where a girl finally got her mean neighbor to like her. Then she was saying, the trouble with getting mean people to like you is then you have mean friends. Great victory.

Its SO true! Those people who are mean to you when you are fat aren’t mean to you BECAUSE you are fat, they are mean to you because they are mean.

Who knows what inner pain or just plain jack-assery causes these people to want to lash out like they do, but it is their own sick deal. Nothing you can ever do will change that, including losing weight.

I want to thank The Curvy Spot where I found a lot of the pictures. And Laura for bringing up this topic. I’m glad I read that and wrote this. It reminded me that I ceven though I am on an exercise program, and I do want to lose weight, I can enjoy how I look NOW! I do think I look beautiful, but I’ve been waiting until I soe wieht to buy cute clothes. That is just ridiculous. I’m going to celebrate my body now. And I hope you will too.

Happy Holidays!

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