Comments on: Divorce: What do you think? http://authenticthreads.org/blog/2008/03/29/divorce-what-do-you-think/ Long live the doot deary! Thu, 28 Aug 2008 16:27:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Braidwood http://authenticthreads.org/blog/2008/03/29/divorce-what-do-you-think/#comment-1097 Braidwood Thu, 24 Apr 2008 16:42:47 +0000 http://authenticthreads.org/blog/2008/03/29/divorce-what-do-you-think/#comment-1097 Thanks for your comments, Yak! Thanks for your comments, Yak!

]]> By: Yak http://authenticthreads.org/blog/2008/03/29/divorce-what-do-you-think/#comment-1016 Yak Sat, 29 Mar 2008 23:26:49 +0000 http://authenticthreads.org/blog/2008/03/29/divorce-what-do-you-think/#comment-1016 The Bible says unhappiness in the marriage is grounds for divorce ( well, I thought it did - but I can't find a passage for it now) - but where does the unhappiness come from? - Is it really abuse? (emotional, betrayal, or otherwise) - Is it the spouse is not willing to really listen? (or there is not a real bond between the two) - Is it unrealistic or unmet expectations? Life is for happiness - I think if we really go the extra mile in a marriage and it fails at least we'll know that we can walk away without regret. I have a 4 quadrant theory - 3 quadrants don't make for a happy marriage - only 1 does - mutual love - the other 3 quadrants - I am loved but do not love - I love but am not loved - neither of us loves (a marriage of convenience for both) The Bible says unhappiness in the marriage is grounds for divorce ( well, I thought it did - but I can’t find a passage for it now) - but where does the unhappiness come from?

- Is it really abuse? (emotional, betrayal, or otherwise)
- Is it the spouse is not willing to really listen?
(or there is not a real bond between the two)
- Is it unrealistic or unmet expectations?

Life is for happiness - I think if we really go the extra mile in a marriage and it fails at least we’ll know that we can walk away without regret.

I have a 4 quadrant theory - 3 quadrants don’t make for a happy marriage - only 1 does - mutual love - the other 3 quadrants - I am loved but do not love - I love but am not loved - neither of us loves (a marriage of convenience for both)

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